With my Daddy and sister Laura at the Atlanta Zoo, many years ago - me on the right |
One of my earliest
memories is of my dad taking me to walk while my mom took care of my little
sister. It’s a vague memory of a happy time, just the two of us, walking around
the block. Adding a sibling is a rough time for a child who goes from being an
only to sharing the parents. I was the older of two but have no memories of
being an only. But I do have memories of time with my dad as he made sure I
didn’t feel left out after my sister was born.
Peter with Ann-Bailey and their girls Lilly Bell and Harper Christmas 2014 |
Now our son, Peter, and son-in-law, Drew, each have
two children: a three year old and a one year old. They each make sure they
have time to give the older girls special “daddy time” while the mom takes care
of the little one. I’m sure when the girls are older this will retain memories
of these special times just for them with their dad. Addie loves going to walk
with her dad; just the two of them having their special time. Peter enjoys
taking Lilly Bell to ballet on Saturday mornings or to swimming lessons, giving
them some special time just for the two of them.
I have other special memories with
my dad: my sister and I going to the
golf course with him, walking with him while he played golf; having him take us
out to sell Girl Scout Cookies; going on plane trips with him; all of us going
on picnics and to Stone Mountain. It’s not only the big events that create the
best memories but the everyday things that form the fabric of our lives: family
meals, walks, time together. Both of my parents are gone now, but the memories
remain forever; they gave me the foundation for building my own family.
Father’s Day is one of those often glossed
over holidays, not given the attention of Mother’s Day – fewer cards sent;
fewer long distance phone calls; fewer gifts. Yet good fathers’ are not to be
taken for granted.
Allan with Peter and Katie on our Cape Cod adventure 1998, the summer of touring colleges, a stop between Princeton and Harvard . |